A sensitive issue re panty liners for Mum

Mum has regular leaks - she is 85, and she is very happy to use panty liners*. I think there are other accidents too as she hand washes lots of underwear, and I have enough knickers on the line for four women. [My neighbours probably think I am a hygiene freak because we also wash more than 30 face flannels per week in an attempt to curb conjunctivitis, the bane of Mum's and now my life.]

*Oops, terminology issue here. What used to look like a pantyliner in the 90's as it was so slim, is now a fully-fledged slim (ultra slim) sanitary towel in 2012. We use slim sanitary towels - but, my are they discreet.

Mum gets upset if I get anything too seriously micro. All supermarkets sell loads of brands, lengths, thicknesses. Just checked, we are using "ultra thin, with wings, 'super' grade absorbency. This does the trick and actually deals with a fairly significant leak. Also she likes the 'Always? Aldays?' brand, forget which, and they do a night time slim sanitary towel with extra length that may be ideal for those bowel accidents. Nowadays the problem is Mum takes so so so long to get dressed. The excuse she gives is she has to use "those things". I guess I will look for ones without wings, less complicated to stick onto panties.

By the way, we have only once had one in the washing machine - my fault as I didn't see it, and it didn't disintegrate at all. Good news for the plumbing.

Thank goodness for pantiliners. Mum would not cope well with leaks and nothing to catch them. All the best, BE