Grandma forgetting me :( | Dementia Support Forum

Hi all,

My grandma has vascular dementia and has gradually declined to someone i don't know anymore. I've always rang her every day and we've always been so close but the last few weeks i've noticed that she's not the same with me. She recognises me when I speak on the phone or when she sees me but she doesn't seem to register i'm her grandaughter. It's like she's forgotten me all of a sudden. She's forgotten how close we were, she now just hangs up on me and doesn't say good bye properly. Alot of the time she just doesn't seem interested. I find it hard to go and see her and finding it harder and harder to ring her, i dread it to be honest. She doesn't talk like my nan anymore todays she was speaking to my son and she said 'who's that girl who's in charge of those kids?' and my son told her it was me but she didn't connect who i was to her. Is it normal for me to feel that i don't want to be near her? I find myself ringing her less than i used to, i just can't bear to talk to her when she's not the same, it's killing me inside. I can't tell anyone else how much i'nm hurting. I have 3 children and i'm pregnant again! My eldest and youngest have medical problems and i need to be strong for them and my other girl, i can't fall apart but feel like i'm loosing a part of myself, that's how much she means to me. I've only ever really had her as far as family goes and apart from my own little family i feel like she's all I have left xxxxx